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If you live in a large city then it is likely you live within a short distance of the gym. Physical health is an essential part of our lives, after all. We want to be fit and healthy, but how often do you think about your emotional health or wellness, though?
Our emotional well-being is just as important as our physical, and if you feel like you’ve been ignoring your emotional wellness then you should follow these tips to boost it:
The first step to improving one’s emotional wellness is to start actively monitoring your thoughts and feelings.
Rather than waiting until you are emotionally overwhelmed, check in and monitor your feelings regularly. The more attention you pay, the more under your control they will be.
The opposite is also true; if you’ve never tried to pay attention to your thoughts you will hardly even notice them. The result is that your feelings will be controlled by them without you even realising it.
The key is to surround yourself with the positive lights in your life. Spend less time with toxic people, or those who drain your energy.
Reach out to your loved ones, the ones who love you back and make you feel re-energized.
If you want to be in control of your emotions, you need to be in control of your life. Learn that it is OK to say “no”. Don’t apologize for focusing on your own goals.
Nothing can torpedo emotional wellness like failure can. You might feel perfectly content one day, and then after some sort of failure you will be in shambles.
The easiest way to deal with this is to reframe failure. Don’t view failure as a negative. Failure is simply a learning experience. You fail, you learn, you try again.
How often do you find that you sit around stewing over something that bothers you? If you are like most people, it happens more often than you would like to admit.
If you want to break this cycle, practice distracting yourself when the brooding starts. Get up and take a walk. Tidy your desk. Whatever you choose, keep working on it and eventually brooding will be a thing of the past.
Even though it doesn’t always feel like it, you ARE in control of your feelings. You can choose how to react to situations.
I would strongly suggest you do your best to look at the positive side of things. You can’t be optimistic 100% of the time, but you will feel emotionally stronger the more you commit to it.
I like having big audacious goals, and so should you. That said, don’t forget to set some more realistic goals along the way. Striving for and regularly reaching realistic goals is a great emotional boost.
On top of that, hitting this smaller goal propels you towards your grander visions.
No matter how hard you try to fight it, change is inevitable. Change in our world, our homes and even within ourselves. You will be much happier and emotionally sound if you choose to accept it. Better yet, why not fully embrace it?
How do you talk to yourself? No matter how positive you think you are, you are likely far more negative than you’d be to a close friend. Would you ever call a close friend some of the things you have called yourself?
Make a concerted effort to stop your negative self-talk whenever it emerges. You will be more confident, happy and emotionally well when you do.
Start keeping a journal. Focus on writing about your emotions.
If you commit to this long enough you might start to notice certain patterns that could lead to more emotional insight.
Set a simple goal. It can’t be so simple you don’t even have to work at it, but it should be something you could finish in a few weeks or a month.
Write the goal down in detail and add a deadline.
Attack your new goal.
You wrote your goal down.
You know what you want to accomplish.
What are you waiting for?
Think of a step you can take right now, and do it!
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