Your Chances Of Finding Love
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Online dating is easy, but it might be hazardous to your social skills. You know how to sound poised typing on your keyboard, but you may shrink away from striking up a conversation at the coffee shop or introducing yourself to a new neighbor.
You can double your chances of finding love by using your offline hours as effectively as you use your time online.
After all, you probably don’t think twice about saying multiple things to multiple people on social media, so don’t think twice about doing the same in the real world!
Granted, there is no sure-fire way for how to find your true love, but what follows are some simple ways to meet more singles… and maybe even create an instant connection that hopefully develops into you finding the love of your life.
To more easily find love you need to boost the opportunities you have for dating, and there are very little dating opportunities or chances of you meeting your true love while sitting on the couch watching TV.
Implement one, some, or all of the following. The more you do the more opportunities you’ll have for finding the love of your life:
Hang out at the ballpark or a folk music festival and chat with with those around you in between innings or sets. You’re bound to have at least one interest in common.
Spending a semester together will give you more time to develop a meaningful relationship. Ask a nearby university about their policy for auditing classes or browse through brochures you receive at work for outside training.
Special interest clubs are another great place to spend time with other adults who share your passions.
If the choices seem limited or they don’t have what you’re looking for, start your own. After all, someone, at some time, made each of the ones that already exist.
This can be for anything. For example, if you’re a booklover, find out who else is lingering in the psychology or cooking section. Ask them if they’ve read anything good lately or share the last interesting thing that you read.
Shared interests will mean you’re already closer before you start. Forget that nonsense about opposites attract. It’s just pop psychology. You’re not a magnet.
A cute pet will attract attention. It’s also an easy and effortless way to introduce yourself to fellow animal lovers.
Stop putting off your dream vacation until you’re married. Being in an unfamiliar place can encourage you to try new things and ask strangers for advice.
If someone you know isn’t there then you’re not compartmentalized into any pre-exising image that you or others have of you and will find yourself a freer spirit.
Closer to home, you can support your library or campaign for a city council member.
Asking others why they got involved is a simple way to strike up conversation with shared interests. You’ll most likely be talking for ages.
Sign up for a softball league where you can burn calories and enjoy the outdoors. You’ll have plenty of chances to bond with your teammates during the games and then again afterwards when you head out for pizza and a drink.
Let your friends know you’d appreciate being set up.
Be gracious whether you have a good time or not; it can always be chalked up as a learning experience.
Congratulations on taking the first step! Once you’ve spotted a promising candidate, it’s now time to boost your dating potential by making a good first impression.
Consider these tips:
Strike up a conversation. Comment on what’s going on around you or offer a sincere compliment.
If you’re a little shy, you can make it easier for others to approach you. Smile and make eye contact. Stand up tall and open your arms out to the side so you don’t appear defensive.
Give yourself credit for having the courage to be rejected. Most mature adults will be flattered by your attention. You can always move on if someone doesn’t feel like talking.
Let others get to know the real you.
Remember your goal: finding the love of your life is only possible if you find someone who will love for who you are. Be fake and the person that you’ve found may fall for the fake you, a you that you won’t be able to maintain indefinitely.
At the same time, dating feels less awkward when you take the spotlight off yourself. Consider how you can make the other person feel special and valued. You’ll probably wind up having more fun.
Be patient. Love may not blossom overnight, but you can speed up the process by sticking to your values and being your true self.
…and try interacting with other singles in your daily life instead.
The love of your life could be anyone and you can meet potential dating partners anywhere you go!
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I wish you the very best with finding the love of your life! Consider yourself fortunate when you do as not everyone is lucky enough to find someone like this. Someone for whom they wish to share their life journey together with.
And when you do find the love of your life, be sure to deepen the intimacy between the two of you so as to enhance the bond you have together even more. Deepen all types of intimacy, but especially emotional intimacy.
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